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1. Find the comedy in life

“There’s no secret to our marriage,” says Chris. “We have a laugh,” says Rosie. “And it makes life a little bit more enjoyable, doesn’t it?"

“In day-to-day life, from parenting to the podcast to the TV show, as long as we’ve made each other laugh, I feel like it's been a success,” says Chris.

“And you don't always have to laugh at each other,” says Rosie. “Watch something funny. Laugh together.” “Or laugh at the other one’s misfortune,”says Chris. “It still counts as a laugh.”

2. Communicate

“We do a section on our podcast called What’s Your Beef, and people write in and they say things like: ‘My husband has done this irritating thing for seventeen years and I've never said anything.’ You should have said something.

“Nip it in the bud. Talk about things. Ask what’s annoying you about the other person. It hurts at first, I’ll be honest, but you get over it.”

“It does help,” says Rosie.

3. Look after yourself

“Practise good hygiene,” says Rosie. “It doesn’t take a lot. I think that’s probably just a life thing, isn't it? But in any relationship, one of you can't smell and the other one not smell.”

“Look after yourself for the other person,” says Chris. “Have a shower, deodorant, bar of soap, floss. Rosie will always tell me if I smell in any way, shape or form.”

“You’re quite lacksadaisy with flossing your teeth,” says Rosie. “I’ll ask when you last flossed, and you’ll say two days ago. I'm going to get you a water flosser actually because I think you'd enjoy that more. Not until your birthday though.”

4. Treat each other

“I love a bunch of flowers, they don't even have to be big, expensive ones,” says Rosie. Even a small gift like a bunch of daffodils from the local shop or a chocolate bar are good enough for Rosie.

“Whenever I buy you flowers, if it's in a supermarket, some bloke who works there will always go: ‘Ooh, are you in trouble?’ And I'm like: ‘No, not yet’. It’s just nice.”

“I do get quite a lot of guilt flowers,” says Rosie. “But I get them for no reason as well.”

5. Be Supportive

“Be each other's biggest cheerleader,” says Chris. “I love now that the rest of the world can see how talented and funny Rosie is. Because I've known it for years.”

6. Compromise

This is something Rosie and Chris say they’ve had to learn throughout their relationship.

“It's not always perfect, in fact it's very rarely perfect actually, but you’ve got to give and take,” says Rosie. “Meet each other in the middle,” says Chris.

“I've had to learn how to say sorry,” says Rosie, “Because I was terrible at apologising. It's because I'm one of three and the middle child. When you're younger, you have a fight and you never apologise to each other. So I found it difficult.”

“It took Rosie so long to learn how to say sorry,” says Chris. “She was getting nosebleeds, shaking, just couldn’t get the words out. The first time she apologised to me, I remember accepting the apology, cuddling her and I left the room and I wept.”

7. Be independent

“A really important thing in a relationship is to maintain your own independence. I think you should have privacy in your life,” says Rosie. "It’s really healthy to be able to spend time apart."

“If you've got kids, make sure that you're not just Mam and Dad,” says Chris. “You also need time. You need time away from the kids as a couple and you need time [for yourself].”

8. Embrace the everyday

“It's very exciting when you first get together, isn't it? But then as life carries on, it becomes a little bit mundane,” says Rosie. But she thinks we should embrace day-to-day life. “I actually quite like the mundane. There’s comfort in it. I quite like that we have this life. We come home, we have tea together, and we watch the telly.”

“It's nice knowing that you’ve got someone,” says Chris.

You can listen to the full interview with Rosie and Chris on Â鶹ԼÅÄ Sounds - it’s the episode from 11 May.

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