Charm Is Not It
A spiritual comment and prayer to start the day with Hope Lonergan.
A spiritual comment and prayer to start the day with Hope Lonergan
Good morning.
Charm is a slippery, fraudulent parlour trick. A way to manoeuvre people away from their better judgement or finesse them into providing utility. Itβs a performance thatβs evaluated on whether it stimulates the interlocutor β and in such a way that it fills them with false hope or satiates their vanity.
I always thought I was immune to the tactical nature of a charmerβs seduction. That I had a shrewd, hardboiled, discerning personality despite a veneer of congeniality. Iβve often seen public figures Iβve previously held a robust disdain for, easily handling a series of soft ball questions. In that setting they might present as quite amiable with a knack for social lubrication and Iβve found myself getting pulled in, starting to question the narratives around them. Maybe theyβre flawed, broken people who donβt really understand the warping effect they have on, say, world events or public opinion.
And β as always when trying to rehabilitate reprehensible figures who have some hold on you thatβs hard to reconcile with your ethics β I looked towards that powerful religious virtue: forgiveness.
Another controversial figure recently wrote: βForgiveness is available for all of usβ. A noble sentiment. One I feel deeply in my bones. But the thing about forgiveness is it requires a certain amount of sacrifice and accountability β a pound of flesh β to elicit that level of understanding from the world. You canβt expect respite from judgement if youβre avoiding the singeing light of exposure and keep trying to force your misdeeds back into the dark.
So today, I pray for real, soul-searching accountability, and a forgiveness thatβs earned by their actions. I pray for those who have the fortitude to approach their bad behaviour head-on and find ways to rectify their mistakes.
Amen.