麻豆约拍

Rabbi Harvey Belovski discovers the tension between togetherness and personal space at the heart of every marriage and reveals the dance between these two polarities.

Having been married to his wife for twenty eight years, and now with seven children, Harvey looks back at the ups and downs of his own relationship and is slightly uncomfortable that it has taken him so long to work out the simple truth that a relationship is strengthened and nurtured by the differences between a couple - and that partnership comes from opposition.

Harvey also realises that in order to love one's partner as they are, rather than as we'd like them to be, we need to have a clear sense of who we are ourselves. He concludes, "I'm evolving towards a position in which a secure relationship allows and encourages considerable space for individual growth. This is not purely to avoid smothering one's partner, but to nurture a healthy and mature relationship." His journey of discovery is illustrated with readings from Alain de Botton, Khalil Gibran and Eric Fromm, along with the music of Billy Joel, Liszt and Brahms.

Presenter: Harvey Belovski
Producer: Michael Wakelin
A TBI production for 麻豆约拍 Radio 4.