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β€œFrom pain comes strength, resilience and purpose”...

Six stories exploring grief to mark Good Friday

Katie Piper

On Good Friday Katie Piper presents At the Foot of the Cross on Radio 2. The show features inspiring stories from people navigating the emotions often associated with grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.

Katie says she experienced so many emotions following the acid attack that left her badly burnt at a young age and has experienced her own “At the Foot of the Cross” moment, which ultimately led to her becoming a Christian.

Katie’s learnt the most valuable lessons in life come in times of pain and not pleasure; and from experiencing great personal anguish Katie has learnt that from pain comes strength, resilience and purpose.

Katie hears deeply personal stories from people who live with grief and how their faith has enabled them to find hope for the future.

(top) Mina Smallman, (right) Keith Oliver, (bottom) Norman Smart

Mina Smallman

On Good Friday, Mary, Jesus’ mother suffered the agonising pain of losing a child. Mina Smallman understands Mary’s pain. Mina’s daughters Nicole Smallman and Bibaa Henry were murdered as they celebrated Bibaa’s birthday in a north London park in June 2020. Mina explains what the image of the cross means to her.

Keith Oliver

Peter’s denial of Jesus is a powerful message about having full trust in Christ. Peter uses denial to protect himself from the truth as many of us do during tough times. Keith was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s, aged 54, while working as a primary school headteacher. He was in extreme shock when he was diagnosed and he’s had to adapt to changes in his personality. Keith has experienced denial at his new reality, but his faith has allowed him to come to a place of acceptance and allows him to give a voice to those living with dementia.

Norman Smart

Norman Smart can relate to Jesus’ bargaining with God in the Garden of Gethsemane. Norman lost his wife, Helen, to cervical cancer when she was 56. He spent lots of time in prayer following Helen’s diagnosis, pleading with God.

Devon Marston, Carol Bostock and Kia Sherr

Devon Marston

On Good Friday Jesus was filled with sadness, knowing he had to go to the cross. Devon Marston can relate to Jesus’ sadness. He has experience of living with paranoid schizophrenia, anxiety and panic attacks. He describes himself as a “wounded healer” ministering to others. Devon’s ministry focuses on the importance of raising awareness and supporting men, especially men in the black community, with their mental health.

Carol Bostock

In times of grief many people feel angry – just as Mary Magdalene did. Carol Bostock has spent many years on a journey of grief. She has felt real anger towards God, at times, at never having had the children she so desperately hoped for. This grief has been a defining factor of Carol’s identity and has led to lots of pleading with God. Carol uses her experience to help others adjust to pain, loss and trauma.

Kia Sherr

Kia Sherr can relate intensely to Jesus’ teaching of forgiveness. Kia’s husband, Alan, and their 13-year-old daughter, Naomi, were killed in the 2008 Mumbai attacks that claimed 166 lives, yet Kia found acceptance and forgave the perpetrators.